i am learning the art of goodbye, the importance of timing in farewell. finally getting the “when” right. discovering that goodbyes are often what saves a relationship, that a person has to realize when they are trying to force something, when there is irreparable strain, when the relationship just needs some air and some space to let it unravel how it needs to unravel.
not that we shouldn’t fight for the people we love. by all means hold on and never let go. so many times that’s all we have. you’re all i have. thank you for fighting for me.
but also. sometimes goodbye is the only way to create space for more love, more connection, more of what you need to be whole. shedding. renewing. skin growing over that wound.
this is not the end, just a farewell for now.
goodbye.
How is saying “goodbye” an art?
Posted by Daria on October 8th, 2009.
This is so beautiful. And so true. Thank you for sharing. I miss you! I must find the time to write soon, but in case I don’t, let’s chat soon! *hugs*
Posted by Hill on October 16th, 2009.
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Posted by Linksplosion! Relating edition « Zero at the Bone on December 24th, 2009.
This is so beautiful – thank you. I appreciate the space of goodbyes allowing for future love/connection even with those you’ve farewelled.
Posted by Ju on January 20th, 2010.